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Tuesday, October 9, 2007
Expectations( Root cause for all troubles )
I meet my friend Rohit, he looked really sad and upset. As a matter of fact I meet Rohit after 4 years. He told me that his life has been very miserable since last year, when asked about the reason he told me that his Girlfriend broke up with him. They had a good relationship for past 5 years, but because of some circumstances they broke up. I told me that it was him who made the mistake by going out with another Girl during there relationship but soon realised that it was not what he wanted. Now the girl has moved on and started a new relationship. She is not talking to Rohit any more and Rohit wants her back in his life. Rohit's business, family life and soclial life has suffered immensly throughout. Now whats the root cause of all these troubles in his life. Is it his Love for that Girl? or is it his expectations from that Girl thats causing him all this trouble?
Yes, love can never Hurt if its pure, and Love with expectations is impure and thats the cause. Expectations from our loved ones, our co-workers, our friends, our Jobs, God even from ourselves..causes us the pain when we do not get what we expect. I normally donot expect anything from anyone I believe all that is happening is happening for Good, the times when I have expected something I got hurt. Latest was when I was expecting a phone call from my very close friend on my Birthday, but she couldn't call me and I felt really bad and hurt. Does that mean that she does not care about me No its not the case. I sit back and think only if we stop expecting results, favours, love, care, anger we will have no worries and we will live a happy life.
Think about this whenever we make a mistake we expect a backlash, embaresment and anger, so we try to hide our mistakes, only if we stop thinking about these things and except our mistakes assertively we can learn from them and stop making them again. We donot try new things our takes risks because we expect Danger, Defeat, Embaresment....
....stop thinking about the results and stop expecting love, respect etc. Just spread smile happiness, love and Respect without expecting anythng in return, as I think being selflesss is the only key to a peaceful and happy life.
Cheers!!
Sushant
Yes, love can never Hurt if its pure, and Love with expectations is impure and thats the cause. Expectations from our loved ones, our co-workers, our friends, our Jobs, God even from ourselves..causes us the pain when we do not get what we expect. I normally donot expect anything from anyone I believe all that is happening is happening for Good, the times when I have expected something I got hurt. Latest was when I was expecting a phone call from my very close friend on my Birthday, but she couldn't call me and I felt really bad and hurt. Does that mean that she does not care about me No its not the case. I sit back and think only if we stop expecting results, favours, love, care, anger we will have no worries and we will live a happy life.
Think about this whenever we make a mistake we expect a backlash, embaresment and anger, so we try to hide our mistakes, only if we stop thinking about these things and except our mistakes assertively we can learn from them and stop making them again. We donot try new things our takes risks because we expect Danger, Defeat, Embaresment....
....stop thinking about the results and stop expecting love, respect etc. Just spread smile happiness, love and Respect without expecting anythng in return, as I think being selflesss is the only key to a peaceful and happy life.
Cheers!!
Sushant
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